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Counseling and Psychotherapy

Should Clients Be Touched By Therapists? Some Say No, I Say, Develop A Balanced View

Some therapists completely shy away from touching/hugging their clients for fear of sexual assault lawsuits or being manipulated. I was once this therapist until I recognized that this wasn’t me, but a common fear in my field that had almost controlled my style. Now that I have freed myself from the chains of fear caused by repeated discussions of this topic by fearful therapists, I believe developing a balanced view of touch with clients is more healthy and beneficial to everyone involved.

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Mental Health Care: Can You Visibly Identify Someone Who Might Need Your Help?

What personality characteristics, physical appearances, lifestyles, or career titles might prevent you from recognizing desperate search for help from others? For many of us, it can be very difficult to visibly spot someone who is struggling with depression, anxiety, or other difficulties that involve mental health. There are plusses and minuses to this. It is great if your boss cannot see that you are exhausted and depressed, but very bad if you own mother or spouse does not recognize it. Let’s talk a bit about recognizing mental fatigue and emotional need.

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The Psychology of Group Influence: 4 ways to stay true to yourself

Are you easily influenced by a group of people or a group decision? Are you aware of how much of a follower many of us can be? Or…do you think you are quite independent, often straying away from the narrow-minded thinking of groups in society? Find out how to remain true to yourself in a world that favors “groupthink.”

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How Families Can Cope With A Loved One With Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder affects a great deal of our population but research is still lacking on the subject. Sadly, there is very little research about specific populations suffering from BPD such as adolescents and males. So sometimes the only hope is that you learn about it yourself. Become your own advocate.

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Special Needs Book Review Website for Parents & Families

Special Needs Book Review is a wonderful website for parents, families, and caregivers who are caring for a child with special needs. You can find resources, support, and books that are useful for everyday life. The most popular portion of the site is the Author Interview Series where professionals and parents are interviewed about their upcoming books on the topic of special needs.

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What’s the hardest thing about family therapy? Myths and challenges

Family therapy is not as simple as it may appear. There are tons of techniques, approaches, and “schools” of thought that influence the flow of a single session. A therapist’s style will also influence the flow of family therapy. What most people struggle to realize is that family therapy is not just an opportunity to attend therapy together as a family, but rather a chance to challenge each other, discuss very uncomfortable subjects that affect the family unit, and make real changes.

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Trauma Case Study: Can you identify the trauma?

Trauma Case Study: Can you identify the trauma?

Trauma is complex and confusing for many people. Even for therapists, we require intense training in order to treat individuals with trauma. Would you be able to identify an individual who has been traumatized? Would you know the signs? Find out here….

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6 Reasons Why Mental Health Professionals Are Human Too

Are you a mental health professional who feels overworked, overlooked, and possibly manipulated? Are you tired and feel misunderstood? I feel your pain.

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Checking the background of your doctor

Checking the background of your doctor

When you first look at a doctor what are your preconceived notions? Does he look intelligent, harmless, and well put together? Does he look innocent? Do you find yourself thinking “he/she is a doctor, they want to help people not hurt them.” If so, you’re […]

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10 Worst Things to Say To Someone Struggling With A Mental Illness

What has been your experience with people who lack knowledge about mental illness? Do they say things that comfort you or do you find that they are insensitive?
Lets talk about this highly ignored topic….

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Triangulation: Why the term can be dangerous

Have you ever heard of the term “triangulate” or “triangulation?” It’s a term that refers to the act of confusing a situation in such a way that 3 or more people are fighting against each other. A classic example of this is when your son or daughter runs to dad to ask for something that the mother has already told the child she/he could not have. It’s a phenomenon that keeps many of us struck.

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Inspiration Sunday

Do you have vision? is it correct or skewed. I’ve learned that only the correct vision can take you where you want to be. DreamFearlessly

Whose with me??!!

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What Dr Martin Luther King Has Done For Mental Health

As I review his “I Have A Dream” speech, I see many qualities that can aid caregivers, families, friends, and professionals during our quest to help the helpless.

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How Burn-Out Affects Mental Health Professionals

Have you ever heard of the terms “burnout,” “compassion fatigue,” or “secondary traumatic stress?” If not, you’ll soon find out what these terms mean in this article. Each week we discuss issues specific to parents, families, caregivers, and individuals who are living with or helping someone with a mental health condition. But this week, we’ll talk a bit about the mental health professional and the challenges many helpers face. The challenges that mental health professionals face can ultimately affect the type of service you receive. This doesn’t mean that the professional is incapable of helping you, but it does mean that skill level can be affected. You should be aware of how compassion fatigue affects someone you are working closely with.

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Psychosis: Symptoms, disorders, and ways to cope

Families, friends, and caregivers are often uninformed about the type of psychotic symptoms their loved one may be experiencing. For many therapists, including myself, observing and correctly identifying symptoms can be extremely complex and require months if not years of psychological evaluation.Psychotic disorders include a profound disturbance in perception and thought. They can entail a host of symptoms.

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Discussing the Controversy of Borderline Personality Disorder Traits in Adolescents

Over the past two weeks I have enjoyed writing about and sharing with you the diagnostic issues and parental fears surrounding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and the possibility of adolescents being diagnosed with the disorder. Last week we discussed treatment options for adolescents exhibiting borderline […]

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Can Teens Be Diagnosed With Borderline Personality Disorder?

Are you the parent, grandparent, or family member of a teen or pre-teen who exhibits an inability to control their impulses, emotional reactions, behaviors, aggression, suicidal thoughts, self-injurious behaviors, and anger? Is the behavior so extreme that you are afraid to discuss minor issues for […]

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Effective problem-solving in a crisis

Crisis. What comes to mind when you hear this term? Do you think of natural disasters such as hurricanes, national health concerns like the Ebola virus, personal struggles such as a divorce or failed relationship, or perhaps something less dramatic but still emotionally draining such […]

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When your child is 302’d: What Should You Know?

Involuntary commitment. What comes to mind when you hear this word? Chaos and confusion? Fear and pandemonium? Loss and grief? For many parents, having to commit your child to a hospital against their will is something that doesn’t fit into the schema of adults. The […]

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Eating Disorders: When Eating Becomes A Prison

Do you know someone with an eating disorder? Do you know what it is? Trying to support a loved one or friend who sticks her finger down her throat to purge the food she just ate, strips you of your ability to reason and make […]

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Parenting: It’s quite complicated!

Did you know that your parenting style can determine the emotional and psychological well-being of your child?

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6 Subtle characteristics of the pathological liar

Have you ever communicated with a person who seemed to live in a fantasy world where everything said “felt” false? What about having an experience with a person who always seems mysterious and nothing they say ever comes to fusion? Well…if so, you might have […]

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Characteristics of the stalker: Know what to look for

When you think of the word stalker what comes to mind? Do you think violence and vengefulness? Do you think fear on the part of the stalker? Do you think about the stalker’s lack of communication skills or even mental health problem(s)? Many people would agree that […]

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Speaking out about mental health changes lives

A few months ago I discussed making Personal Stories Week a yearly endeavor with a former colleague and one thing she said stood out to me: “people enjoy hearing and sharing good stories.” While I didn’t agree with her nonchalant stance on true stories of […]

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Personal Stories Week – August 18-24

It’s that time of year again when I collaborate with a group of readers, writers, parents, twitter followers, friends, and colleagues to discuss, during 1 entire week on blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers (PsychCentral), their experiences with mental illness or other mental health challenges. Their experiences could be personal or […]

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Change Is The Hardest Thing Ever

Change. It’s a simple word but it can mean so many things to the person experiencing the change. I’ve had many changes in my personal life, changes that were both good and bad. Some change is on time and other changes come at the wrong […]

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Fear, Uncertainty, and Discouragement: A normal condition of human existence

How many of you rely on your faith for strength and courage as a caregiver, as an individual living in this stressful world, or as someone suffering from a mental health condition? For many people, their faith is the only thing they have to hold […]

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National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month

Did you know that July is National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month? If not, you’re not alone. Sadly this month is often overlooked by the majority of Americans. It is a time when summer has bloomed, fireworks have entered the scene, and multiple summer parties […]

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Can you spot a pathological liar?

Think back to an age at which you told the most lies or “fibs?” Were you 4, 5, 8, or 10? Why did you tell the lie? Were you trying to get something in return, manipulate a situation in your favor, or avoid hurting someone’s […]

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Alex Hribal: A puzzle for professionals everywhere

Do you remember my article published on Alex Hribal, a 16-year old who stabbed 20 high school students and an adult in the Franklin Regional High School of a quiet suburb in Pennsylvania? The article was titled: Parental Responsibility in Tragedy through my sister-site Psychcentral/caregivers. The […]

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The Overworked Mental Health Professional

Each week I see myself mentally, physically, and emotionally deteriorating (in inches) every time I encounter a new client, a new situation, a new challenge, a new mystery. It’s part for the course as a helping professional. No one will escape the fatigue. The field […]

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A long string of violent acts – A cry for help or criminal behavior?

A long string of violent acts – A cry for help or criminal behavior?

What do you think of this paragraph? She had reason to worry. When her son showed up at her Queens home in May 2009, he beat her, striking her in her face multiple times, and then wrapped an electrical cord around her neck. “Mom, I […]

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Mental Health In A Failed American System

Mental Health In A Failed American System

Available April 22! Is the mental health system making you feel all alone, lost, confused, and angry? If so, you are not alone. A therapist shares her experiences and insights about the system with multiple stories and resources for parents, families, and caregivers. She also […]

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10 Cognitive Distortions That Keep Us Bound

Today I spoke with a good friend from graduate school about recent changes in her life. No matter how positive some parts of the change was, she found some way to think of the negative. We began to review what we had learned in school […]

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Shopping Around in the Mental Health System

When I go grocery shopping, I rarely stop at one store to buy all of my items. I often “cherry pick” by getting all meat from one store, my fresh produce at another, and then my dry goods at another. By the end of the […]

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The history of medicine – have we progressed?

William Halsted and Sigmund Freud were two “scientists” who went down trying to crack the mystery of substance abuse use (Freud) and searching for the strongest numbing agent for surgical procedures (Halsted). Their nightmare was characterized by strong addictions, medical complications, and extreme health problems. […]

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9 Troubling revisions of the DSM

9 Troublingrevisions of the DSM       Photo credit: Raphael Pinto

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Would you know what to expect in a mental health evaluation?

Would you know what to expect in a mental health evaluation? A mental health assessment is often the very first step toward seeking mental health services. For youngsters, mental health assessments are more involved because parents, schools, and other people of importance are often included such […]

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Understanding Psychological Abuse

Few studies focus on psychological abuse as much as they do emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. But by no means does this mean that psychological abuse is less detrimental. Understanding psychological abuse   Photo credit: David Garzon

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Youths in crisis: what are we doing wrong? (Video)

This is something I deal with daily in my work with youngsters. Many days it feels like we’re all doing everything wrong. Other days, are quite different. But where are we going to intervene and how? This is something we rarely discuss for fear of […]

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Without him who would we be? Celebrate his legacy today!

A gift from God, a hope for the future, direction for our souls, and peace for our hearts. He embodied it all.

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Do you know Phineas Gage?

Do you know Phineas Gage? Phineas Gage suffered a terrible tragedy that led neuroscientists to research the effects of trauma on the brain, emotions, and behavior. Find out what happened to Mr. Gage. You can read the article and watch the video: Photo credit: Hidden

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5 Benefits of Group Therapy

5 Benefits of Group Therapy Group therapy is often disapproved of and shunned as a nuisance. But I believe, although I am not a big fan of it, that group therapy has 5 important benefits for both teens and adults. Find out what those benefits […]

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5 Reasons why Behavior Therapy is a Good Choice for Teens

5 Reasons why Behavior Therapy is a Good Choice for Teens

5 Reasons why Behavior Therapy is a Good Choice for Teens Behavior therapy is a good choice for kids/teens with behavior problems. Find out why I say so.

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Need help getting psychologically prepared for the New Year?

Need help getting psychologically prepared for the New Year? The New Year is always met with resistance because it means change. Some change is good, some is bad. For many of us, we will enter the new year with debt, new worries, insurance woes, reduced […]

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Failing to Bring Awareness to Mental Health in the Workplace

This presentation was presented at the Pittsburgh Carnegie Library, Business and Technology Series event December 19. This presentation discusses the problems associated with corporations, organizations, and other businesses in failing to bring awareness to the existence of mental health. This presentation also touches upon the […]

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Welcome To Anchored-In-Knowledge!

I’m so glad you have decided to visit this site! Anchored-In-Knowledge was designed specifically for parents, families, and caregivers of individuals with mental health conditions. To find out how to navigate through this site, click here for my “Getting started” page. This site is “family-friendly” for individuals […]

A Reminder: True Meaning During Christmas Time

A Reminder: True Meaning During Christmas Time

Hello there! I wanted to personally send my best wishes for a wonderful holiday season. This time of year is a wonderful time because it allows us to think over the accomplishments of the year, remember people we love, give gifts from the heart, and […]

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A Balanced View: Having a baby with severe mental illness

A Balanced View: Having a baby with severe mental illness

An article was published a few weeks ago and circulated by www.rethinkmentalillness.org. The question that was posed was “am I crazy for wanting a baby with schizophrenia?” Many responded with both positive and negative replies, but many were imbalanced. Imbalanced information in the field of […]

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Book: Mental Health In A Failed American System

Book: Mental Health In A Failed American System

 Get the e-Nook book on Barnesandnoble.com now! Looking for the paperback version? Released April 22, 2014! Book Description Families of an individual with a mental health diagnosis or special need are often the most frustrated and powerless among us. These individuals experience a host of […]

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Group-Think and Its Evil Influence On Vulnerable Members

Group-Think and Its Evil Influence On Vulnerable Members

Have you heard about or watched the disturbing events in Charlottesville Virginia that occurred over this past weekend? It began Friday evening, August 11th  and has been a nightmare ever since. It’s scary to say the least. Not only are those within the group turning […]

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Psychological Urgency: 3 Common Tactics Used To Manipulate

Psychological Urgency: 3 Common Tactics Used To Manipulate

Psychological Urgency is an actual thing in today’s world and in the world of psychology. In fact, the “urgency principle” is used to describe ways marketers gain an advantage over vulnerable people. The “urgency principal” is quite popular around the summer and even more popular […]

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Delusions (preview) Of Video Blog

Delusions (preview) Of Video Blog

Do you know someone with delusions or psychotic behaviors who is difficult to communicate or reason with? If so, you are not alone. The audio blog below summarizes this topic and I offer tips on how to protect yourself and those you love. Stay tuned […]

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Introducing my new video blog!

Introducing my new video blog!

Hello everyone, So happy to announce that I will be launching, January 25, 2018, a weekly video blog on topics relating to mental health, diagnoses, relationships, counseling, trauma, healing, loss and grief, and other topics of interest right here on my website at: anchoredinknowledge.com. You […]

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Severe Psychological Dysfunction: 10 Signs of Pure “Evil”

Severe Psychological Dysfunction: 10 Signs of Pure “Evil”

A discussion of delusions, hallucinations, and psychotic disorders can be complicated. For most people, psychosis is difficult to understand and live with, especially when a person threatens your livelihood and/or your life. This article will discuss some of the behaviors and characteristics that can be […]

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Suicidal Thoughts: Jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge

Suicidal Thoughts: Jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge

Did you know that the Golden Gate Bridge is the prime location for suicide attempts? Did you know that the bridge is infamous for about 3,000 completed suicides? The bridge is one of the larges bridges in the nation which took about 11 construction workers […]

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