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Finding courage in feelings of uncertainty

Hugging Cheyenne
Hugging Cheyenne (Photo credit: Clover_1)

My mother once said to me:

“once you enter a deep pool or ocean of water the last thing you want to do is kick uncontrollably because that is the moment when you sink.”

Ever since then, I stopped kicking in moments of great discouragement. I learned to “let life take me” and search for meaning in the details. Through this, I became a follower of God, of faith (the very One we celebrate today). Having denounced all orthodox-type religion, I found tools that opened up my mind to a world of new possibilities. Outside my mind, my logic, is where I found hope. Since then, my hope has wavered, but because of this Anchor, I’m able to climb the ladder of life with a ray of light.

I’ve become a firm believer in the power of perception on our feelings of uncertainty. There are 6 things I encourage you to do when you feel helplessly uncertain:

  1. Write down how you feel: Journaling is one of the most important aspects of self growth. We grow when we process in our minds changes in emotions and life. When you write things down that affect you, you are discussing the issue with yourself. It organizes everything about the event and yourself in your mind. Do it!
  2. Talk: Talking to a trusted, loving, and nonjudgmental, yet honest individual is always helpful. Seek wisely for a talking partner.
  3. Wisely choose your music: Some music can lift your spirit and give you hope, while other music can severely depress you. Examine your mood and determine if the music you are listening to is sending positive messages or negative. For example, if you are missing someone you love, you may not want to listen to a song about relationship woes, heartache, or grief. Try the opposite.
  4. Treat Yourself: Like a mother pamper’s her child when they fall and get hurt, you should pamper yourself. Take a warm bath/shower, eat well, watch something funny, listen to music, take a walk, relax, go to sleep. Do things to revive yourself.
  5. Change your surroundings: Sometimes you simply need a change in scenery.  Try a different color paint, new pictures, change your lighting, or even your furniture. If this is too expensive, move your furniture around!
  6. Dance: I love zumba! I put on a CD I love and dance! When you move about, your body releases endorphins (“endogenous morphine”), a chemical or neurotransmitters in the brain that reduces pain and makes you feel good. This is sometimes called the “feel good hormone.”

Feeling better and developing courage takes time, but once you develop an awareness of what you need to do, you will begin to feel better.

I wish you all the best

 

   
As always, I wish you well
Tàmara 
 
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