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Raising problematic children: 5 considerations to help

Challenging kidsRasing problematic children is never easy. These kids struggle to fall in line with other kids in the school and community.

Some kids struggle to fall in line with kid in their own home (i.e. siblings or extended family).

This article will focus on the challenges of problematic children with suggestions on the direction to take to help problematic children grow, learn, and succeed. 

There are 5 suggestions I often give parents when they bring their kids to see me for therapy:

  1. “Tighten up” parenting practices: Parents often believe they can apply rules “loosely” and not follow up or reinforce them. Other parents believe they can “friend” their children into liking and respecting them. These kinds of attitudes are often displayed by permissive parents. The goal is not necessarily child-reading, but rather becoming friends and not reinforcing expectations and rules with the child. The consequences of this approach can sink the child and the parent.
  2. Pursue outpatient therapy and mobile therapy at the same time: “Layer services.” What I mean by this is that you should consider getting your challenging child 2 or more therapeutic service. In the mental health field there are tons of mental health professionals who all deal with different challenges and needs of a family. For example, a behavior specialist can help parents learn better parenting techniques, while a case manager may help families pursue disability income, locate other services, and provide needed services such as transportation. Still, other professionals may offer family therapy and coaching. Figure out what you need and search for it.
  3. Respond to disrespect and opposition immediately: It is tiring repeatedly responding to the oppositional and rebellious behavior of a challenging child. Sadly, the parent’s job is to “confront” negative behaviors (in an appropriate fashion) before behaviors become “ingrained” or reinforced. For example, if you see your son eating out of the garbage or hitting others without reason, you need to address it head-on most times. Although I believe parents should pick their battles wisely, this is a battle you need to be in. The more you allow behaviors
  4. Give up activities you feel you can balance with childrearing: It’s a sad reality but if your child is challenging and problematic the chances of you pursuing pleasurable activities or achieving certain goals may be decreased. Going to school, working a very challenging job, or “hanging out” every weekend will have to become a thing of the past if your child is struggling with life. The best gift you could give to a challenging child is your time and energy.
  5. Consider extensive therapy and/or medication management: Years of therapy may be warranted. If therapy isn’t successful alone, you may have to consider medication management. Some kids may need medication to help with ADHD symptoms, anxiety, or impulsive behaviors. Other kids may struggle with sleep which makes following rules and complying even more difficult. Medication or extensive time in therapy may be needed.



Problematic and challenging kids


What do you think about this topic? Do you know someone struggling with a challenging child? I welcome your comments below.

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