Trauma-based & Family Psychotherapy For Angry, Anxious, Depressed, and Frustrated Families

Abuse By Proxy: Understanding”Flying Monkey’s”

Abuse by proxy is a phenomenon that a lot of people have never thought of. In this article, I will discuss this concept further and provide examples.

Trauma can result from any circumstance that outweighs your ability to cope. Simply put, the event is terrifying, unnerving, and unexpected. For many of us, unexpected events can bring a host of anxious thoughts and feelings including depressed mood.

In this video, I discuss another phenomenon in traumatic relationships known as Abuse By Proxy or “Flying Monkeys.”

In case you’re wondering:
the idea behind the term “flying monkeys” is that an individual intends to send others out to do their dirty work. The term was developed in the novel The Wizard of Oz when the witch sent her “winged monkeys” to do the dirty work.

I welcome your comments and questions!

My previous article on triangulation mentioned in the video:…

Helpful resources:
1. Adult children of emotionally immature parents (book by Lindsay Gibson)

2. My article on family therapy:…

3. The Power Of Others:…

4. Bonded to the abuser:…



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