Trauma-based & Family Psychotherapy For Angry, Anxious, Depressed, and Frustrated Families

Abuse By Proxy: Understanding”Flying Monkey’s”

Abuse by proxy is a phenomenon that a lot of people have never thought of. In this article, I will discuss this concept further and provide examples.

Trauma can result from any circumstance that outweighs your ability to cope. Simply put, the event is terrifying, unnerving, and unexpected. For many of us, unexpected events can bring a host of anxious thoughts and feelings including depressed mood.

In this video, I discuss another phenomenon in traumatic relationships known as Abuse By Proxy or “Flying Monkeys.”

In case you’re wondering:
the idea behind the term “flying monkeys” is that an individual intends to send others out to do their dirty work. The term was developed in the novel The Wizard of Oz when the witch sent her “winged monkeys” to do the dirty work.

I welcome your comments and questions!

My previous article on triangulation mentioned in the video:…

Helpful resources:
1. Adult children of emotionally immature parents (book by Lindsay Gibson)

2. My article on family therapy:…

3. The Power Of Others:…

4. Bonded to the abuser:…



As always, I wish you well

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Trying to understand all of the chaos associated with the #coronavirus can feel very overwhelming.

I want to let ALL of my clients/patients who come to Anchored Child & Family Counseling or who see me for consultations know that I am taking the necessary steps to ensure that all of the families and individuals who come to the office are safe and healthy.

Please know that, in the event Anchored Child & Family Counseling is asked to alter its hours or close for the safety of all clients/patients, I will be offering tele-health (online, computer, or phone) services. Although I do not anticipate this happening any time soon, this is important to be prepared for.

I also want to assure you that if I receive any information regarding the corona virus that involves your insurance and/or your care I will let you know as soon as possible.

Although many of the new reports may appear to be or feel exaggerated, as you know keeping our eyes open and making smart decisions is essential.

Please let me know if you have questions!



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