Trauma-based & Family Psychotherapy For Angry, Anxious, Depressed, and Frustrated Families

Borderline Personality Disorder: Relational Challenges

One key feature of borderline personality disorder is chronic relational problems that lead to separation, divorce, or loss of the relationship in some fashion. For many of us, understanding the borderline personality can feel like a losing battle. One minute you may think you understand the person to only find out later, that you didn’t understand them at all.

I have counseled clients who want to change their behaviors but are unable to. Almost like an addiction, the individual with BPD traits cannot just “stop” the behavior. This article will discuss some of the challenges I have observed in the lives of those with BPD.

Most people not only struggle to understand BPD but also interact with the person. Interactions can turn from positive to negative in no time. Moods are labile, emotions are intense, triangulation (i.e., an act in which the person pulls in other people intentionally or unintentionally for personal gain) occurs, manipulation may occur, and dysphoria. When an individual with BPD feels depressed or anxious, they are likely to isolate, withdraw, or even self-medicate.

What is BPD and how is it treated?

Proper therapy is one of the most important forms of treatment for an individual with BPD. Medication is typically useful for impulsive behavior, labile mood, insomnia, or anxiety. Medication cannot help change BPD symptoms because BPD is a personality disorder. It is a set of personality traits that influence thought patterns, behaviors, and interactions with others. Just like your personality, BPD is a personality trait that is dysfunctional, emotional, or infantile at times. It is not a treatable mental illness that requires medication. It is a disorder that requires behavior management, insight, and intentional change.

Tune into my audio blog below to listen to explanations and more information on this topic.

As always, I wish you well

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States across the nation are passing laws, reducing restrictions, and enacting new regulations to help support the transition from stay-at-home orders to the normal flow of life again.

To keep everyone at Anchored Child & Family Counseling safe, I will only be opening the office for in-person sessions 1 day of the week. The other days of the week will consist of teletherapy sessions until the mask wearing restrictions are reduced or eliminated and corona virus cases have gone down.

My office assistant and I will be monitoring insurance policies for any changes to corona-related cost share, copayment, and coinsurance policies. I will be checking and rechecking insurance policies to ensure you will be covered for teletherapy. At this time, all major insurance companies (UPMC, Highmark, Aetna, Optum/United, and Cigna) are continuing to provide coverage for teletherapy into September 2020.

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Támara Hill, MS, NCC, CCTP, LPC

Licensed Child & Family Therapist
National Board Certified Counselor
Internationally Certified Trauma Therapist

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