Have you ever heard of the term “triangulate” or “triangulation?” It’s a term that refers to the act of confusing a situation in such a way that 3 or more people are fighting against each other. A classic example of this is when your son or daughter runs to dad to ask for something that the mother has already told the child she/he could not have. It’s a phenomenon that keeps many of us struck.
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Some therapists completely shy away from touching/hugging their clients for fear of sexual assault lawsuits or being manipulated. I was once this therapist until I recognized that this wasn’t me, but a common fear in my field that had almost controlled my style. Now that I have freed myself from the chains of fear caused by repeated discussions of this topic by fearful therapists, I believe developing a balanced view of touch with clients is more healthy and beneficial to everyone involved.
What personality characteristics, physical appearances, lifestyles, or career titles might prevent you from recognizing desperate search for help from others? For many of us, it can be very difficult to visibly spot someone who is struggling with depression, anxiety, or other difficulties that involve mental health. There are plusses and minuses to this. It is great if your boss cannot see that you are exhausted and depressed, but very bad if you own mother or spouse does not recognize it. Let’s talk a bit about recognizing mental fatigue and emotional need.
Are you easily influenced by a group of people or a group decision? Are you aware of how much of a follower many of us can be? Or…do you think you are quite independent, often straying away from the narrow-minded thinking of groups in society? Find out how to remain true to yourself in a world that favors “groupthink.”
Borderline personality disorder affects a great deal of our population but research is still lacking on the subject. Sadly, there is very little research about specific populations suffering from BPD such as adolescents and males. So sometimes the only hope is that you learn about it yourself. Become your own advocate.
Special Needs Book Review is a wonderful website for parents, families, and caregivers who are caring for a child with special needs. You can find resources, support, and books that are useful for everyday life. The most popular portion of the site is the Author Interview Series where professionals and parents are interviewed about their upcoming books on the topic of special needs.
Family therapy is not as simple as it may appear. There are tons of techniques, approaches, and “schools” of thought that influence the flow of a single session. A therapist’s style will also influence the flow of family therapy. What most people struggle to realize is that family therapy is not just an opportunity to attend therapy together as a family, but rather a chance to challenge each other, discuss very uncomfortable subjects that affect the family unit, and make real changes.
Trauma is complex and confusing for many people. Even for therapists, we require intense training in order to treat individuals with trauma. Would you be able to identify an individual who has been traumatized? Would you know the signs? Find out here….
Are you a mental health professional who feels overworked, overlooked, and possibly manipulated? Are you tired and feel misunderstood? I feel your pain.
When you first look at a doctor what are your preconceived notions? Does he look intelligent, harmless, and well put together? Does he look innocent? Do you find yourself thinking “he/she is a doctor, they want to help people not hurt them.” If so, you’re […]
What has been your experience with people who lack knowledge about mental illness? Do they say things that comfort you or do you find that they are insensitive?
Lets talk about this highly ignored topic….
As I review his “I Have A Dream” speech, I see many qualities that can aid caregivers, families, friends, and professionals during our quest to help the helpless.
Have you ever heard of the terms “burnout,” “compassion fatigue,” or “secondary traumatic stress?” If not, you’ll soon find out what these terms mean in this article. Each week we discuss issues specific to parents, families, caregivers, and individuals who are living with or helping someone with a mental health condition. But this week, we’ll talk a bit about the mental health professional and the challenges many helpers face. The challenges that mental health professionals face can ultimately affect the type of service you receive. This doesn’t mean that the professional is incapable of helping you, but it does mean that skill level can be affected. You should be aware of how compassion fatigue affects someone you are working closely with.
Families, friends, and caregivers are often uninformed about the type of psychotic symptoms their loved one may be experiencing. For many therapists, including myself, observing and correctly identifying symptoms can be extremely complex and require months if not years of psychological evaluation.Psychotic disorders include a profound disturbance in perception and thought. They can entail a host of symptoms.
Over the past two weeks I have enjoyed writing about and sharing with you the diagnostic issues and parental fears surrounding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and the possibility of adolescents being diagnosed with the disorder. Last week we discussed treatment options for adolescents exhibiting borderline […]
Are you the parent, grandparent, or family member of a teen or pre-teen who exhibits an inability to control their impulses, emotional reactions, behaviors, aggression, suicidal thoughts, self-injurious behaviors, and anger? Is the behavior so extreme that you are afraid to discuss minor issues for […]
Crisis. What comes to mind when you hear this term? Do you think of natural disasters such as hurricanes, national health concerns like the Ebola virus, personal struggles such as a divorce or failed relationship, or perhaps something less dramatic but still emotionally draining such […]
Involuntary commitment. What comes to mind when you hear this word? Chaos and confusion? Fear and pandemonium? Loss and grief? For many parents, having to commit your child to a hospital against their will is something that doesn’t fit into the schema of adults. The […]
Have you ever communicated with a person who seemed to live in a fantasy world where everything said “felt” false? What about having an experience with a person who always seems mysterious and nothing they say ever comes to fusion? Well…if so, you might have […]
When you think of the word stalker what comes to mind? Do you think violence and vengefulness? Do you think fear on the part of the stalker? Do you think about the stalker’s lack of communication skills or even mental health problem(s)? Many people would agree that […]
A few months ago I discussed making Personal Stories Week a yearly endeavor with a former colleague and one thing she said stood out to me: “people enjoy hearing and sharing good stories.” While I didn’t agree with her nonchalant stance on true stories of […]
It’s that time of year again when I collaborate with a group of readers, writers, parents, twitter followers, friends, and colleagues to discuss, during 1 entire week on blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers (PsychCentral), their experiences with mental illness or other mental health challenges. Their experiences could be personal or […]
How many of you rely on your faith for strength and courage as a caregiver, as an individual living in this stressful world, or as someone suffering from a mental health condition? For many people, their faith is the only thing they have to hold […]
Did you know that July is National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month? If not, you’re not alone. Sadly this month is often overlooked by the majority of Americans. It is a time when summer has bloomed, fireworks have entered the scene, and multiple summer parties […]
Do you remember my article published on Alex Hribal, a 16-year old who stabbed 20 high school students and an adult in the Franklin Regional High School of a quiet suburb in Pennsylvania? The article was titled: Parental Responsibility in Tragedy through my sister-site Psychcentral/caregivers. The […]
Each week I see myself mentally, physically, and emotionally deteriorating (in inches) every time I encounter a new client, a new situation, a new challenge, a new mystery. It’s part for the course as a helping professional. No one will escape the fatigue. The field […]
What do you think of this paragraph? She had reason to worry. When her son showed up at her Queens home in May 2009, he beat her, striking her in her face multiple times, and then wrapped an electrical cord around her neck. “Mom, I […]
Available April 22! Is the mental health system making you feel all alone, lost, confused, and angry? If so, you are not alone. A therapist shares her experiences and insights about the system with multiple stories and resources for parents, families, and caregivers. She also […]
William Halsted and Sigmund Freud were two “scientists” who went down trying to crack the mystery of substance abuse use (Freud) and searching for the strongest numbing agent for surgical procedures (Halsted). Their nightmare was characterized by strong addictions, medical complications, and extreme health problems. […]
This is something I deal with daily in my work with youngsters. Many days it feels like we’re all doing everything wrong. Other days, are quite different. But where are we going to intervene and how? This is something we rarely discuss for fear of […]
This presentation was presented at the Pittsburgh Carnegie Library, Business and Technology Series event December 19. This presentation discusses the problems associated with corporations, organizations, and other businesses in failing to bring awareness to the existence of mental health. This presentation also touches upon the […]
I’m so glad you have decided to visit this site! Anchored-In-Knowledge was designed specifically for parents, families, and caregivers of individuals with mental health conditions. To find out how to navigate through this site, click here for my “Getting started” page. This site is “family-friendly” for individuals […]
Hello there! I wanted to personally send my best wishes for a wonderful holiday season. This time of year is a wonderful time because it allows us to think over the accomplishments of the year, remember people we love, give gifts from the heart, and […]
An article was published a few weeks ago and circulated by www.rethinkmentalillness.org. The question that was posed was “am I crazy for wanting a baby with schizophrenia?” Many responded with both positive and negative replies, but many were imbalanced. Imbalanced information in the field of […]
Get the e-Nook book on Barnesandnoble.com now! Looking for the paperback version? Released April 22, 2014! Book Description Families of an individual with a mental health diagnosis or special need are often the most frustrated and powerless among us. These individuals experience a host of […]
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is complicated. It may take years before it is correctly identified or diagnosed. For many of my young female clients, the most terrifying part of the disorder, for them, is the emotional chaos and disconnectedness that can occur in moments of […]
Pathological lying is a behavior that most people struggle to understand. Many of my clients find it difficult to understand the foundation of pathological lying which is often a “symptom” of a bigger problem. It is important to learn their modus operandi (MO). I discuss […]
Have you ever had feelings for someone and couldn’t understand where they are coming from? Have you ever felt like someone’s mother or grandmother and couldn’t understand why? If so, you’re not alone. Transference is a term that has its roots in psychoanalytic theory and […]
Have you ever been through a divorce? If so, what was the worst part about it? If not, what would be the worst part about it for you? When I speak with parents and families about their divorce, the most common question I get it […]
Advocacy is powerful. If you could write your Senator about the implementation of better mental health protocols would you? What would you say? What would your heart tell you to say? Well, I have an opportunity for you with an example letter of mine that I […]
Understanding traumatic stress is important. Traumatic stress/experience (both emotional and psychological) affects about 26% of the child US population. About 60% of adults report experiencing trauma in some form as a child. Trauma can result from any circumstance that outweighs your ability to cope. The […]