For most people, trying to change thoughts can be like trying to stop smoking. It’s difficult!
In this video, I discuss ways to examine your thoughts in a balanced way, hold off your emotions until you are able to cope better, and then make a decision. Although this approach may not work for everyone, it can be a good start.
It’s always helpful to learn new ways to change and “challenge” thoughts you may be having that aren’t based in reality. We, as humans, tend to allow our emotions and what a circumstance looks like to dictate how we feel about it. However, there are some situations that are far from what our emotions tell us.
How can imbalanced thoughts affect me?
Allowing our emotions to dictate to us how we are to think is like allowing your growling stomach to tell you it’s time to eat, even though you just finished eating. In other words, although our thoughts may seem logical and appropriate, they aren’t always based in reality. As a result, it is up to us to develop skills necessary for making proper decisions and controlling our emotions.
For some people controlling emotions and negative, imbalanced thoughts is as simple as praying and meditating or reading the bible. This is something I tend to do when very stressed, overwhelmed, or uncertain. But for others, controlling emotions and negative thoughts may include self-medication with drugs or alcohol, sex, or other risky behaviors.
Any time there is a lack of coping skills and personal awareness, you are likely to “cope” using unhealthy tools.