In this article, I discuss ways to cope with traumatic bonding. I also post the last 2 videos in this series. I encourage your comments and questions.
Do you find yourself picturing a loved one in your mind when reading articles on trauma? Are you thinking about an experience that still hasn’t left you?
If so, perhaps you are bonded to the person who wronged you. You may be asking yourself “how?” Or you may just deny it…completely. But the reality is that becoming emotionally and psychologically bonded to someone who has abused you is real. It is more real than a lot of people would like to admit.
You may also be wondering what the term “traumatic bonding” actually means. A complex emotional and psychological process of“bonding”, “traumatic bonding,” can happen when a child experiences periods of positive experience alternating with episodes of abuse. By experiencing both positive and extreme negative from a parent, ta child can become almost co-dependent.
Sadly, this same experience can happen to adults. I discuss this phenomenon further in the following videos.
For the book review on Traumatic Bonding by Amy J.L. Baker and Mel Schneiderman click here: https://psychcentral.com/lib/bonded-to-the-abuser-how-victims-make-sense-of-childhood-abuse/.
For more information on my perspective on trauma, visit my blog here: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2015/03/trauma/.
To read my most recent article on this topic click here: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2018/05/5710/.
To see part 1 of this series, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xtsw06Ys3U.
To see part 2 of this series, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_iH44rrp5M.